Never as bad!

Things really are never as bad as you think they are going to be ..if you are honest!

How many times do we get ourselves all worked up and upset about something that actually never happens?

We as humans the drama ..we tend to fantasize about how bad things are going to be, based on our imagination or based on past events ..but ..the PAST does not equal the FUTURE? ..we have choice,  we can decide what our future holds and which path we take.

Many moons ago,  I worked for local government, helping people to pay their rent was a job, that in some ways I did enjoy, helping people sort out their finances and reassure them that it was going to be OK.  But at times I hated it, when the customers were rude and aggressive and felt like the world owed them everything ..anyway ..after leaving this job ..and since then, I am not very keen on using the phone..I get flustered and will do anything to put off making calls..

…but I know that I am a different person now ..a strong, more confident person who can do anything that I put my mind to..

So why is that niggling ..”oh my god, I’ve got to make some calls” ..constantly running through my head ? ..because I haven’t dealt with it here and now I am ….

Today and yesterday I have made 8 phone calls ..and taken the action that I needed to take ..and do you know…they were all jolly calls, full of love and appreciation ..see, it is never as bad as you think!

Do you have similar experiences ?  What do you battle with ?  ..comments please

Your choice

If I could give you a sneak preview of the

future, how would your world look?

If I could forward time along by 10 years –

If you could choose, what would you choose?

Would you choose the same job that you have?

Would you choose the same partner that you have

The same House

The same friends

The same income

The same life style

Would you have the same values?

Would you have the same sense of humour?

Would you have the same skills?

If I turn the clock back 10 years

What did you choose 10 year ago?

Did you choose the job that you are in

Did you choose the same partner that you have now

Did you choose the house that you now live in?

The same friends

The same income

The same lifestyle

Do you have the same values now that you did 10 years ago?

Do you have the same sense of humour?

Did you have the same knowledge then as you do now?

So back in time or forward in time – what did you choose?

Who you are now and who you will become are all due to the decisions that you make today.

SO Choose the job you want

Choose your perfect partner

Choose the house that you live in

Choose the friends that you have

Choose the level of income that you want to achieve

Choose the life style that you want

Choose the values that you hold in your life and the ones that need to be ditched –ditch!

Choose how you laugh – who you laugh with and at what

Choose to expand your knowledge

Choose to take action on that knowledge

It is your life get to choose how you live it

Take control

Make changes and Choose

over weight and unhappy?

Unless you address why you over-eat you will always have to diet (what an awful thought). So it is time to get real. Think about the true answer to these questions:

– Are you blaming the past? Johnny did xyz to me & that is why I eat.

– Are you dwelling on the past? If we had had more food as a kid…

– Are you blaming other people? All of my family are big.

Well it is time to take responsibility for yourself.

Dealing with the past:
If you have a specific issue that you feel needs dealing with before you can move on & get healthier for good then be determined to sort out your feeling. Something that I personally do/have done is to write a letter to the person who has wronged you (don’t worry I am not suggesting you send it) but write down exactly how you feel now and how you felt when it happened.

I have written a sample letter below & I have used these following “headings” that I have numbered so that you can see what I mean.

You did XXX to me (1)
How it made me feel (2)
How I felt up to this point(3) Up to this point (use these words as it indicates to your subconscious that it is time to move on)…
But NOW(4)
To ME:(5)

as a teenage you bullied me, belittled me and physically assaulted me
(2) I feel angry with you for doing this to me, you dis-empowered me, you made me feel pathetic and ashamed of who I am. You were unfair and to physically hit me, you were cruel, nasty and a complete pig.
(3)Up to this point I have neglected myself because I felt that you were right, I have not looked after myself because I felt worthless due to your mistreatment.
I felt angry at you, I felt angry at myself for being so pathetic to let you do this to me.
I feel sad and worthless
(4)Jason, I am reclaiming my life back, I am going to forgive myself for letting you effect me this way. Jason, you were wrong, I am a fantastic human being and I am worth looking after. There is no point in not forgiving you for the crap that you put me through
so I forgive you,
I forgive so that I can be free and claim back my self respect, my power and start to love myself again.
(5)I am a beautiful inside and out, now that I can forgive the past I can move on and become the person that I want to be. I can be thinner and healthier, I no longer need to rely on food for comfort. I can now start to enjoy my life and I am ready to move on

This process is not easy…you will feel angry, you will probably cry but at the end you should feel lighter and happier.

I normally have a ritual burning of my letters (it just seems appropriate to me). I actually do this process with any situation/issue that I feel that I have been holding onto and is getting in the way of my progression. At the end of the day it is your life & you can take responsibility for it anytime you like.

The past does not equal the future, however many times that you have tried to diet before and not got the results that you want..Just means that you have learned what not to do. Excellent…so don’t do that again!

The past does not equal the future – you can do this

See yourself as you will be: Your mind is an amazing thing, if you start telling yourself something your subconscious cannot determine what is true or false. So by looking at yourself and believing that you are your goal weight, you are the size that you would like to be already…wow it will be so much easier.

I truly hope that this has helped you move forward in finding the YOU that YOU are happy with. I have some amazing products to recommend that may also help.