Is failure the new success?

Yes it is a strange title but I have recently read a few article, books & blogs all shouting from the roof tops that to fail is a positive thing.
Let me explain:  it has been said that by failing you come one step nearer to getting the results that you want.  The guy who made post-its (sticky yellow notelets) was meant to be finding a “super” adhesive but actually made the opposite and took the opportunity to turn the idea around.  So moved from failure to success.

I have also read this week that it is not failure but feedback – which again I get, however you do need to be in the right mind set to deal with this and be ready to ask a whole new set of questions to yourself.

For instance by failing to get a date with that girl may well be a blow to your ego, the questions you should be asking yourself are:

Visual:   How was my appearance?  Could I have looked better?

Sound:   How did I sound?  Was I abrupt?  Was I friendly?  Was I argumentative? – Could I have been friendlier/softer

Content:   Could I have asked her out in a different way ?

Timing:   Was the timing right? What had she/you both just been doing ?  Was she rushing off somewhere?

Preparation:  Was I truly prepared

The idea is not to beat yourself up about the failure, but to ask yourself some quality questions that could help you to learn from the experience & do better next time.

It is relevant to all issues, listen only to your own “helpful” criticism, do not let yourself talk negative talk to yourself ..remember this is learning ..remember learning is great..next you will do it better

Everything that you do in life can either be a success or a failure ..I know which one I prefer.