Victim or Victor

YOU always have the ability — in all of life to be either…the victim or the victor.

With the exception of “Acts-of-God,” which account for maybe 2% of life’s occurrences – 98% of your life, career, marriage, financial situation, family matters are ALL the result of…either things you DO or things you don’t do.
Seriously you can change the course of a life, a relationship, a career – in a heartbeat (as Tony Robbins says). If you truly want control, I believe that either you control your life or your life controls you.

Life is a wonderful thing.

You have the opportunity to do so many things, be so many things, achieve so many things, influence so many things, contribute to so many things.
But far too many – people today take the position of being victims. Victims of the economy. Victims of bad choices. Victims of bad luck. Victims of bad upbringing.

You hear time and time again of brothers who went through the same physical and emotional abuse, one turned out to replicate these traits, abusing others and passing in the negativity, the other a humble, caring human being wanting to give back to the community …how can this be ? Same events different outcomes….

What we do with circumstances and events really IS what determines who we are, what we are, what we achieve.

You can use this infinite opportunity to grow, add value, contribute to people and the world OR you can suck the life and emotion…and passion out of everyone you’re around.

We are in absolute control of our fates and destinies.

If you don’t like your life, you really CAN change it – even today. If you don’t like your body, you really can change it – with disciplined exercise and diet. If you don’t like your relationship, you can change it or end it – by taking meaningful corrective action.

But most people would prefer hoping, dreaming, remorsing or wishing rather than doing – “whatever it takes.” I’ve seen to many unhappy, unsuccessful people.
Guess what they almost ALL have in common? Nothing! Or more accurately, they do nothing meaningful to change their situation, circumstances or plight.

Buying a book you don’t read or don’t implement on isn’t something you should be proud of.
Attending a seminar you don’t follow through with isn’t any great achievement.
Paying a coach or consultant for guidance you don’t use or follow isn’t something to be proud of, either.

I’ve been in relationships that weren’t making me happy, once I had made the decision to leave then I felt better.

I’ve been in careers that were boring me, not fulfilling me so I reinvented myself and found new areas of opportunity.

It was never-ever a “piece-of-cake.” It takes critical thinking, courage, committed and continuous forward motion and action.
You may find that the first “knee jerk” reaction to situations don’t always produce the desired result that we want, this may just be because our action just need a little tweaking, a small change to the courses direction can make a huge difference.
Think about it, A plane takes of from New York, if it just went in a straight line would it end up in London ? ..no ..the pilot needs to plot the course, adjust for wind speeds and other atmospheric changes..small changes gets you to your target.

Most people “give up” the first time they hit resistance, a setback or non-success…in any aspect of their lives. Is it any wonder so few people achieve much (or any) of the life’s pleasures, payoffs and the pursuits they say they want?

What’s I’m trying to tell you is that all that you have always had and wanted for yourself and family, you have today – right now at this moment and you will have it equally available throughout the rest of your life – total, absolute and magnificent control of almost everything you want, crave and/or don’t want and wish to improve.

Whether you pro-act or react. Whether you initiate or contemplate.
Whether you feel victimized or “empowerized” is really…totally up to YOU!

There’s a relevant story I’d like to end on – it’s old but appropriate.

Two young Indian braves wanted to embarrass the wise medicine man intheir village. So they decided to take a small bird and hold it in their hands behind their backs. Then they would ask the wise man whether thebird was alive – or dead. Whichever he answered, they planned on embarrassing the wise man. If he said it was alive – they’d break thebird’s neck before they held it out.

So when the braves went to ask the wise man whether the bird being held behind their backs was alive or dead, he simply replied “The answer lies in YOUR hands.”

Your fate, your happiness, your prosperity…your health – it ALL lies in your hands.

I hope sincerely that you will make the absolute most of the rest of your life. Because, my friend – you absolutely can and that’s all you’ve got.

My inspiration for this was based on an email from Jay Abraham- I found it so true and therefore re-worded it and made it relevant to my story

I hope that you too find it inspiring


Your choice

If I could give you a sneak preview of the

future, how would your world look?

If I could forward time along by 10 years –

If you could choose, what would you choose?

Would you choose the same job that you have?

Would you choose the same partner that you have

The same House

The same friends

The same income

The same life style

Would you have the same values?

Would you have the same sense of humour?

Would you have the same skills?

If I turn the clock back 10 years

What did you choose 10 year ago?

Did you choose the job that you are in

Did you choose the same partner that you have now

Did you choose the house that you now live in?

The same friends

The same income

The same lifestyle

Do you have the same values now that you did 10 years ago?

Do you have the same sense of humour?

Did you have the same knowledge then as you do now?

So back in time or forward in time – what did you choose?

Who you are now and who you will become are all due to the decisions that you make today.

SO Choose the job you want

Choose your perfect partner

Choose the house that you live in

Choose the friends that you have

Choose the level of income that you want to achieve

Choose the life style that you want

Choose the values that you hold in your life and the ones that need to be ditched –ditch!

Choose how you laugh – who you laugh with and at what

Choose to expand your knowledge

Choose to take action on that knowledge

It is your life ..you get to choose how you live it

Take control

Make changes and Choose