My favourite time of year

My favourite time of year:

I love this time of year, the happiness that sunny days bring you after a long winter, the expectation of spring and summer on their way.

I was driving past the river this morning and although it was quite grey and overcast today, the blossom on the trees and the buds on the bushes made me smile and be thankful for the seasons.

You have to have winters to appreciate the spring

The growth and expansion of new life that springs up around us, that develops and becomes sustainable, learning from nature and experience of how to get the best from the environment.

An exciting inspirational time indeed!

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Hey Santa, Don’t Stress at Christmas !

Yes, it is that time of year again when we run round like headless chickens trying to be super nice and buy super presents and have a super Christmas! ..But at what cost?

Stress  at Christmas can put you in a bad mood, spoil the day and why feel like that ?

When we lived in the UK the neighbours would have a “who can put up the most tackiest Christmas lights” competition and try to blow the local power station profits through the sky..they would run round like something demented checking continuously that they had out done   just enough..stress, stress, stress!  I ask you who needs stress at Christmas?

And the supermarkets  just go crazy, people buying so much food you would think that there was going to be some sort of shortage and that we would starve.  The food and drink piled high in their trolleys..could anyone actually eat and drink that much in one go or have a party that big !

The stress levels go up along with the credit card debt!

Now don’t get me wwrong..I love Christmas ..I love shopping ..so this time of year I am having a ball but the difference is ..I plan, I start early and I don’t stress about it

I have made my Christmas cake,  I have got 50% of my presents (and they are wrapped)I have planned what else I want to purchase.  I have planned what we are likely to need for the Christmas week and I know exactly where the christmas tree decorations are ..so I am all organised and ready for the day ..so I can relax, have a glass of Christmas cheer and know that Santa is not getting stressed this year!

Christmas Happy Report

Now you have probably read the list above and thought, good for you , how anal can you get! ..well maybe I am ..but we do it ever year so I write my lists, make my plans, a few  hours on the internet and I am sorted.

I love Christmas and all that it brings and who knows I might have a little idea that can reduce your  stress at Christmas just a little bit

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Christmas Happy Report

Never as bad!

Things really are never as bad as you think they are going to be ..if you are honest!

How many times do we get ourselves all worked up and upset about something that actually never happens?

We as humans ..love the drama ..we tend to fantasize about how bad things are going to be, based on our imagination or based on past events ..but ..the PAST does not equal the FUTURE? ..we have choice,  we can decide what our future holds and which path we take.

Many moons ago,  I worked for local government, helping people to pay their rent ..it was a job, that in some ways I did enjoy, helping people sort out their finances and reassure them that it was going to be OK.  But at times I hated it, when the customers were rude and aggressive and felt like the world owed them everything ..anyway ..after leaving this job ..and since then, I am not very keen on using the phone..I get flustered and will do anything to put off making calls..

…but I know that I am a different person now ..a strong, more confident person who can do anything that I put my mind to..

So why is that niggling ..”oh my god, I’ve got to make some calls” ..constantly running through my head ? ..because I haven’t dealt with it ..so here and now I am ….

Today and yesterday I have made 8 phone calls ..and taken the action that I needed to take ..and do you know…they were all jolly calls, full of love and appreciation ..see, it is never as bad as you think!

Do you have similar experiences ?  What do you battle with ?  ..comments please

Being Grumpy is up to me!

Some days you can just deal with anything that the world chucks at you. You will battle with any thing or any one who gets in your way ..totally focused and goal orientated like a bulldozer you drive straight though, ignoring any hiccups or pain along the way….but on other days…

On other days ..you feel vulnerable, you feel less than your usual perfect self.  You tell yourself that you can’t do stuff, you listen to all the negative self talk …and you let your self feel horrid!

..so what do I do in these situations?

I acknowledge it

..I tell myself that I am just having a bad couple of hours.

I sit and think about how I am a winner, that I have acheived so much and all the negative talk is just noise

Getting frustrated and annoyed is normal ..and feeling sorry for myself , does not help !

So I go for a walk or I clean something (scrubbing pots and pans is fab!)

If I can do something fun or uplifting (singing to good music helps!)

…I choose to feel better

but …just to prove I am human ..sometimes I just like being grumpy

..sometimes I decide I want to feel like this & wallow in my self pity ..it usually lasts for a couple of hours and then I get bored !

So ..acknowledgement is key ..be aware what mood you are in..and change it

…if you want !

I would love your comments and to know if it is just me that has these moments ..please leave feedback 😉

When giving up just isn’t an option!

I can’t tell you how many times I have started something, all excited and enthusiastic and then after 3 weeks lost interest.  I do it time and time again !..so why do I do it?

I used to blame my Gemini personality ..flitting from thing to thing ..or is my lack of confidence, not believing in myself and when it gets tough,                       I let myself believe I will fail anyway  ..so what is the point ?

No,  I think that it is just plain self-discipline ..something that I haven’t had enough of in the past .

All the times that I have started projects and then not seen them through ..if I had continued on those paths would I be at the top of the hill now? ..quite possibly!

So here it is …no more turning back, backing out or just giving up ..no more shiny pennies to go chasing ..determination and discipline !

A friend posted this poem recently that I thought I would share:

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out–
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

– Author unknown

Blue sky and birds flying

I know I have a charmed life, sitting in the sun here in France (I do work hard too ..honest!)

view from our garden

View from our garden

Yesterday I was having my lunch in the sun looking at the beautiful blue sky with not a cloud in it.  I was watching a bird just drifting on the warm air currents, darting about quite happily.  In fact I was quite envying him, the panoramic view and the peace up there …until when two smaller birds swooped in on him and started attacking him, defending their territory.

They were making a right racket and continued their circling and attacking aggressively until the bigger bird gave in and floated by towards the adjacent fields.

With in 5 minutes the little birds had both gone off to try their bullying tactics on someone else and the bigger bird returned flying around, going back to what he was doing before being so rudely interrupted!

It made me think ..do we ever just need to walk away?

Move away from unpleasant situations?  Move away and let the air calm ?

Sometimes it is us being unreasonable or defending our area and sometimes our defending is out of fear or ignorance.  Can we walk away ?  Can we return when we know a better way or a different way?

I am a peacemaker, I shy away from confrontation, I stand my ground but will always walk away to try to keep the peace..my life is simple why complicate it !

All these thoughts from just 3 birds flying around ..not bad for a quiet lunch !

Dr Who and Vincent Van Gough!

As an avid watcher of Dr Who , I was a little upset when David Tennant left the series as well as the fabulous writer Russell T Davies..and I waited for the Dr Who to find his feet ..(is that a regeneration fault ?!  ;0)

Anyway after a few weeks ..I am hooked ..love it ..which brings me to Vincent Van Gough!

The episode where Amy and the Dr.  meet Vincent in the bar and take him home to where all his iconic painting are.  He shows them the picture below and explains that is the way that he sees the world ..in all of its beauty..my favourite is below…

van gough

Imagine seeing the world like that ..which led me to thinking about how we view the world ourselves and how we see ourselves in it.

So, How Do You See Your World?

In my mind,  I see myself with a tall, slim, solid body.  My hair and face are perfect (hey, I am woman, these things are important to me)and dressed beautifully

In reality, someday’s when I see the above in my mind, when I look in the mirror I see a completely different view, bed hair, no make up and scruffy clothes and looking rather more rounded than I care!

Then the biggest shock ..on camera ..worse video ..real life (!) moving pictures of me and what I assume everyone else sees…scarry..

I have this squeaky voice on camera,  that to me, in my head sounded deep,  and on camera I think I look awkward and self conscious where again in my head I am confident and aware.

Different perceptions of one world ..they say that seeing is believing ..but through whose eyes ?

So which is real ?  which ever one you believe in at that time

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